I like being single for the most part, but of course I will admit that this cold weather kicking in is making me wish I had a cuddle buddy. However, finding one the old fashioned way (bumping into Sexy Joe at the gym, coffee shop, bar etc), just doesn't happen for me. I don't know if its because interested parties are shy or I'm giving off a weird vibe (thinks...). I'm not necessarily wanting a boyfriend ASAP but when I do go looking sometimes, I use the Internet.
It is not a strange thing for me as an modern black woman with an old fashioned attitude, to go looking somewhere like the Internet. I am nowhere new to the practice...I mean I grew up in the age of computers; my generation being the first to really grasp this whole Internet biz. So I feel comfortable with it. In fact, the longest relationship I've had to date was with someone I met off the Internet. There is no shame in my game. However, in this new world of online boo-loving I think there should still be some common sense things that both males and females should abide by:
1) Use your own damn picture! Think about it: If you use someone else's picture and you and your mutual interest decided to meet, chances are they are going to be pissed that you lied. Furthermore, isn't the purpose of dating in general about finding someone who will like you for you? (I just dropped some knowledge, I know :)
2) Use a current picture. If you're 28, don't use your senior picture from high school. People can kinda guess that's a damn lie.
3) Be real in the "about me" section! An example of a profile gone wrong is a 48 year old man trying to appeal to much younger women by saying that he's a kid at heart because he likes to play on the monkey bars. He didn't have any kids...so naturally I'm thinking pedophile and ewwwww.....
4) If its about sex...then it is what it is. Say that (in a not so creepy way) in that "about me" section. Don't waste other people's time with your unknown intentions.
5) It may be a bit redundant but again say what you really want! If you want a cultured man, say it. If you want a woman who takes care of her man, tell it.
6) When it's all said and done, go out on a real date(IN PUBLIC!!!) and for just this one time in this very high tech, fast paced, world...take it slow. Sometimes being old fashioned when it comes to love yields the best results. :)
